Wednesday, April 30, 2008

The History Of Internet Dating. Getting started.


User is a friend of user. And sometimes even more. The phrase "We met online" no longer leads to enthusiastic trembling. At worst, they will look at you as a little child, at best - will answer: "We too". Only for 10 - 15 years the virtual acquaintances have undergone a serious evolution.

Dating sites have not been only commonplace means to meet and even find a real husband, but constantly are improving, offering its users more flexible, convenient, and most importantly, reliable methods of communication. Nowadays to seek acquaintance on specialized Internet sites, means to be at a less risk of fraud than if acquainted on forums.
Internet dating has its roots. Like any offspring of progress it nascent spontaneously (like the Internet itself) and it was preceded by forms of communication, based on advanced for its time other technical means.

Technology: acquaintance by the phone.

I have a hazy recollection of a Soviet song, lyric hero of which, complains that to combat a loneliness and to prevent depression, he dialed a number at random, run up on a very pleasant lady, talked with her, said bye-bye, but what a number had dialed - forgot. The method of depressed clumsy guy was adopted by: the very first instrument of the virtual dating was phone.
There were amateurs and professionals who had practiced this method. In fans' life, two or three telephone dates were just amusing episodes. "Professionals" (mostly young pale men with burning eyes) approached to the issue thoroughly: they torn a strip off telephone books of their friends and buddies (that was in case to whom refer) and outlined a list of the victims. The list identified the names, telephone numbers, interests, preferences and details of biography of each telephone subscriber so that not to confuse unintentionally.

How it happened: in telephone dating all depends either on a charm of caller, or on his
perseverance. Some "victim" got into the habit of every-evening telephone "dose" not worse
than to watch regular series of "Santa Barbara".

Where is the danger: worth nothing to take seriously a phone chatterbox, despite the
apparent convergence and commonality of interests. The more so, to hold any hope on him. For
the caller most important - to create an interesting image in listener's opinion. That is why the "professionals of phone cases" rarely insisted on meetings.

Technology: chat familiarity

Once the Internet became more or less accessible to the masses, epidemic infatuation of chat
rooms began. It is now chat is "fie", a low genre. Formerly in chat rooms could be found very entertaining personalities. In addition, with time in chats became possible to cluster together the parties on issues of your interests, preferably not very exotic.

How it happened: we choose chat, preferably more crowded, record our own nickname - and
include in understanding conversation. We could seclude to privacy for private conversation with liked user. Meetings can happen, of course, and one to one, but more often monthly or weekly gatherings of "all collective farm" practiced - exactly where the vast majority of chat romances were stroked up, sometimes even ended with marriages, sometimes even happy.
Where is the danger: if you now will want to revive the good old tradition, then be prepared
that in chat rooms now young lovers of beer and courtyard company sittings are. All more or
less interesting audience moved to a new virtual spot - LJ ( "Live Journal"). The Last Mohicans which maintain the traditions, remain the Visitors of thematic portals on poetry type. They meet once a week to show their creativity and to desecrate someone else's.

Technology: acquaintance in the Live Journal

Today, to have account on a blog, to say easier, keep a diary network - is a rule of good tone. As well from time to time to carry out "de-virtualization", to meet with readers.
How it happens: to start you need to create a magazine and to write something there: "How I
spent the summer" or "What I hate the fascists for". Then you need to subscribe to the journals that you plan to read and comment. And then - to track your own readers and commentators. The charm of reference the blog is that the author himself asks the topic of conversation, himself looks for interlocutors on interest and himself organizes community he likes.
Where is the danger: from a deep immersion into LJ you can languish severely and forget that the text and its author - they are, as they say in Odessa, two large differences. And to
experience great disappointment when personal meeting.

Technology: sms-dating

Sms-dating is a reincarnation of chats after they finally got out of fashion, and the population one and all got mobile phones. Despite the fact that the principle of anonymity of interlocutor is also preserved in the sms-dating, roughly to calculate the gender, age and level of intelligence of action participants is not so difficult. Age: 12 -18 years old, intelligence at the level of PTU (trade school), is in back proportionality to age: the older sms-chatter, the worse with the brain he should be. Otherwise how does one explain the passion for sharing with nothing significant messages? The Sex of sms-interlocutor, of course, is difficult to calculate, but if the information on the age and level of intelligence is available it is not so important any longer.

On the number, boosted by operator of mobile communications, anyone can send a message like this "I am John. I love beer" and get a response, sort of something the same. You have a pleasure to dig down to "who is who" and for the cellular operator is joy as well. Because each message is paid.
Where is the danger: first of all this type of communication no one can be absolutely fascinated with. But if this did happen, do carefully monitor the status of your account on the phone and the state of your level of intelligence as well. A romantic connection will likely not take place.

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